Learn the skills of speaking and listening

تعلم مهارات التحدث والإستماع

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The skill of listening requires the individual to attend fully, and if he listens only with his ears, he will lose a large part of the information, because some of the communication operations take place without words, whoever is distinguished by his ability to listen well, his eyes remain open, during the process of listening to others, and communicating with them, as for people Those who are not good at listening to people, they find only a few who speak to them, or give them information.[1]

What does listening mean?

While listening requires more thought and attention from the individual, his condition is like writing and speaking, and if a person does not care about his listening skill, he will not learn much, and he will not remember what he learned.

Singles heard: listening only means listening enough to capture what the speaker is saying. For example, say you were listening to a report on zebras, and the spokesman mentioned that there are no two equally. If you can repeat the truth, you have heard what was said.
Understanding. The next part of listening happens when you take what you heard and understand it in your own way. Let’s return to this report on zebras. When you hear that no two people are the same, think about what this means. You might think, “Maybe that means the stripes pattern is different for every zebra.”
Judgment. After making sure you understand what the speaker has said, think about whether it makes sense or not. Do you believe what I heard? You might think, “How might the stripes be different for each zebra? But again, everyone’s fingerprints are different. I think this makes sense. ”


Tips to be a good listener

  • Give your full attention to the person talking.
  • Don’t look out of the window or what’s going on in the room.
  • Make sure your mind is focused too; it might be easy to let your mind wander around if you think you know what a person will say next, but you may be wrong! If you feel your mind wandering around, change your body position and try to focus on the speaker’s words.
  • Let the speaker finish before starting to speak; speakers appreciate that they have the opportunity to say whatever they want to say without interrupting. When you interrupt, it seems you don’t listen, even if you already were.
  • Allow yourself to end listening before you start talking! You can’t really listen if you are busy thinking about what you want to say next.
  • Hear the main ideas; the main ideas are the most important points the speaker wants to get. It can be mentioned at the beginning or end of a discussion, and repeated several times. Pay particular attention to phrases that begin with phrases like “My point is …” or “The thing to remember is …”.
  • Ask questions; if you are not sure you understand what the speaker said, just ask. It is a good idea to repeat with your words what the speaker said so that you can ensure that your understanding is correct. For example, you might say: “When you said that there are no two donkeys are alike, do you mean that the bars are different in each one?”
  • Give feedback; Sit up straight and look directly at the speaker from time to time, gesture to show that you understand. At the right points, you can also smile, frown, laugh, or keep quiet. These are all ways to let the speaker know that you’re really listening. Remember that you listen with your face as well as your ears![3]

Think fast

Remember: time is on your side! Ideas move about four times the speed of speech. Through practice, while listening, you’ll also be able to think about what you really hear and understand and provide feedback to the speaker.[4]

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